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I found this article randomly through Google and nearly stopped reading it because I thought it was going to be against, uh, gayness. But it’s not! I kept reading and found it an inspiring and powerful piece of writing which delivers an important message and wanted to share. Here we go:
By Meghan Gesswein
The obvious answer is yes, your child could be gay.
I realize that you may not like that answer, and it may not be something that you’re willing to accept or admit. But if we’re being completely honest, the truth is that you don’t have any control over your child’s sexuality. Just ask Dick Cheney.
And really, even if it’s something you don’t want to think about, when it comes down to it, you are doing your children a disservice if you don’t at least consider the possibility and take a moment to worry about it.
Yes, I think you should be worried that your child might be gay. But not for the reasons you might think.
You should be worried and thinking about it not because being gay is a bad thing, because it’s not. Not because if you take the time to consider it, you might be able to change it, because you can’t. Not because your child’s life will be forever ruined if they are gay, because it won’t.
You should be worried because a recent study of elementary schools shows that “gender non-conforming students” run a greater risk for being bullied. And as suicide rates among Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) youth continue to rise, the effects of bullying can’t be ignored.
I have to assume that you wouldn’t stand for your child to be bullied for having a disability, for not wearing designer clothes, for showing an affinity for science instead of sports, or for talking with a lisp. So I would also have to assume that you wouldn’t want them to be bullied for being gay. Or for “acting” gay or “dressing” gay or any other stupid stereotypical reason kids will come up with. Bullying, in any way, shape, or form is wrong. Plain and simple. And while teachers and school officials may be willing and able to step in to stop a “typical” bullying situation, the research shows that that may not be the case when it comes to LGBT bullying.
So, take a moment to consider the fact that your child could be gay. Then take a moment to think about your child as the focus of excessive, traumatic bullying because of it. Because if your child is gay, it’s sadly something that you are going to legitimately have to worry about.
Now, before you brush this off because your child isn’t gay, or you don’t want to have to think about it, take a moment to at least talk to your kids about their treatment of LGBT youth. Don’t let your kids grow up to be the bully. Because the child that they’re picking on is someone’s son or daughter.
And even though you might not agree with it, or like it, or accept it, you need to at least teach your kids the power of their words and the value of tolerance. Because while you might not want your kid to be gay, you really don’t want them to be the reason another child considers taking their own life.
I’ve been forced to explain homosexuality to my kids (aged 3 and 4) because their uncle is gay. This incredibly difficult and traumatic experience went as follows:
Child: Why does Uncle Bob go everywhere with Pete?
Me: Because they’re in love, just like Mummy and Daddy are.
Child: Oh. Can I have a biscuit?
We’re all scarred for life. Scarred, I tell you."